Monday, April 27, 2009

The Curse of A Well Adjusted Child

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Get ready for a completely irrational rant.

Simon doesn't think I'm special. He doesn't cry when I leave the room and/or go out for a few hours. He doesn't mind being passed to any number of people. He doesn't reach for me when he's upset (that doesn't mean I can't comfort him but...) and he can get shy when we're out and about but there's not much more than a head turn that happens.

It's sick but there's a part of me that wants that. As the primary caretaker shouldn't there be some sort of feeling of Mommy-short hair = home base and safety?

I know that might be there and Jaime and I are just not getting to see it since the little man might just be really well adjusted given all that he's been through.

Maybe we've done the job we wanted to do (not that we're done) with having Simon understand that there will be hard/painful times BUT that we wait for the next good time and when it comes we enjoy the heck out of it. And that there's almost always some kind of good time to be had almost immediately right after a hard time.

Maybe that's sunk in a little for Simon.

Big F***-ing deal!!!

It's sick but I want to feel that special burden of being the only one that can soothe or calm my son when he's upset. He's just 1 year old, is it so wrong that there's a part of me that resents that he seems to be able to do that for himself.

He did so well at his birthday party. He rocked the 4 hour Seder. He's been fabulous with so much family in town and all the dinners and brunches that we've been dragging him to. He's just been great. Happy as a clam.

Little f***er.

It's sick. I know it's sick, and that I'll be kicking my self in the head when all that changes and he can't let go of my pant leg when I really need to pee or get the phone or take the muffins out of the oven (like I'm the one ever baking muffins right?)
It's deranged, I know it is. Still, I want it. I want it bad. I want that clinging.

What is wrong with me?

Anyone have a tree monkey I could borrow for an hour or so?

4 comments:

Elisa said...

On Tuesday the 21st, one week after Isaac's 1st birthday, I commented to his best buddy and day time care taker Ella that it made me a bit sad that Issac didn't seem to miss me when I dropped him off. The NEXT day seperation anxiety hit, big time, and now he doesn't like to leave my side. He was hysterical when I dropped him off this morning. Enjoy the curse... like everthing with children, "this too shall pass". Love to you all!
Elisa and Isaac

Aimee said...

ummm. want to borrow abby? while the clingy thing is cute and cuddly, it gets old after 4 seconds especially when your muffins are burning in the oven :-)

-aimee.

Fresh Ground Knits said...

Don't worry, there is still time! Separation anxiety can appear anywhere between 6-8 months to 18-24 months. You still have time!

And now reading your blog has totally counted for me studying for my Development final
xoxo

Jen said...

I second all three of the above. Also, not sick, not deranged, totally normal feelings on your part. Imagine for a second the person that is in your position and doesn't feel what you're feeling...

Yah?
Developmental on Simon's part for sure. He just thinks you're a part of him, so how could he miss you? Just wait til he figures out you're NOT. It's a blast.
Love you so much.