How could I resist an Mc Hammer shout out on a day like today!!
Today is an auspicous day. There's a lot going.
One year ago today Simon was discharged from Children's Hospital after 4 months in the ICU. We have only been back once for an elected surgery (his G-tube) and once for an ER visit due to dehydration (where thankfully we were NOT admitted).
His heart funciton has improved AND we've had no reason to return save for the occasional "Hi" to our nurses on outpatient visiting days. One year ago. 12 full months. So much has happened. Swimming, crawling, school. Trips to the beach, Mendocino county, L.A., Sushi dinners, dog walks, Grandparent time, Auntie time. Babies have been born, babies on the way. Meds have been refilled, enteral feeding pumps have been replaced. Another cycle. Another return. It's all likely to come around again. And again.
And yet things are different and ever changing.
Today is a marker too.
Today, for the first time ever, the federal government recognizes Jaime as a full parent to Simon. Today the federal governement catches up and recognizes the three of us as a family. It may not recognize Jaime and I as a couple but hot damn, today it at least recognizes the two of us as full and equal partners in parenting Simon.
It's a mostly wonderful moment. I'd say 15%-85%. 15% ridiculous and offensive that Jaime even has to go through the process of adopting her own son that she and I conceived (not literally) of together, were married before he even arrived, and she has mothered since the moment he came into being.
85% wonderfull that there's no where we can't go now that won't recognize her as a full parent. It's not just us and our amazing community. Jaime is Simon's Mama. Always has been. That's not in question or even in celebration. It's the simple relief that there's no one that can take that away now.
Ecchhh, the more I'm writing the more I'm thinking that it's so stupid that we even have to go through this. Now I'm even feeling angry that some judge (nice and lovely man that he was) get's to hand down some decree that get's stamped on a thin piece of tree that says there is this bond between Jaime and Simon. That's BS. Ooooh I'm too angry to keep typing. What a wonderful and f-up world we live in. It's makes me shake a little to think about Jaime and Simon and some one even thinking that they're not family to each other. Grrrrrrr
I'm going to take a break.
What a family...
I will say too that November 20th is auspicious for a third reason in that two of our dear friends became engaged today!!!